“Every time I called you were never there for me.” She walked around the dining room table talking to her boyfriend about why she has been talking to her ex so much lately. “I would say, baby, we need to talk and you’d ignore me, or put it off.” She sat down in the chair next to her boyfriend, gently grabbed his chin and said, “All I needed was an ear, all I needed was a hug, all I needed was someone to listen, and I’ve only spoken to him over the phone, but I need YOU.”
WHEN YOU CALL, HE’S NOT THERE, SO YOU WERE FORCED TO GO ELSEWHERE
A woman vents and her three best friends listen, “I may not be working now, which he is fine with, but I have a meal for him every day, I take care of the house, manage the money, and when I can’t go to the cleaners I iron his clothes myself,” All her girlfriends nod their head, and she continues, “and does he even say thank you, does he say wow baby you look beautiful today, or motion his mouth to say I LOVE YOU?” They all shake their head and put their glasses up for a toast, “For men that don’t recognize the little things.”
NOT NOTICING THE LITTLE THINGS YOU DO
Driving 90 miles an hour from work she is so excited about the news she just got. She screeches to a halt in her driveway, runs to her house phone and calls her favorite man, “Baby, oh my GOD, you aren’t going to believe who just sent me an email!” he laughs and says just as thrilled, “What girl, what is it!” She takes a deep breath and whispers, “I can’t tell you.” He giggles and starts hitting numbers on his cell phone so she can hear the beeps, “Girl, don’t make me put you in a headlock, quit playing!” She clears her throat, “I got an email today,” she said softly and like an ascending overture her voice got louder, “and it was from the law school that I applied for and they accepted me!!!!” A brief silence took place over the phone, and it wasn’t a dropped call. “Baby, are you there?” He responses in monotone, “Hmm, that’s good babe.”
NOT MOTIVATING OR SUPPORTING YOU
There is definitely no perfect man or woman, but if the average woman were to run into a guy that did the opposite of HALF of the scenarios I just mentioned, they wouldn’t know how to react. They’d wonder, what’s the catch, is he too nice for me, is he too good to me, etc. This is because they are conditioned to be battle scarred, wounded, and healing at all times. Sometimes to the point that they justify the pain and strife. They dream up in their head the perfect guy that does the perfect things that they like, but gets one that does three fourths of it and shies away. Why do so many women want so high, but settle for so low?
Isn’t it a shame that they are so conditioned to hard times that if they see a regular act of kindness, they take it as an advance or someone is trying to “holla at ‘em”? Basic things such as asking how their day is, opening a door for them, treating them with respect, doing to them what is promised, calling on a regular basis but not too much, being proactive with things to do are considered “rare” now. These are basic and common courtesy type things that should be the norm, not “he wants something”, “why is he so nice”, “when is he gonna change” and other countless examples. These regular things are considered so rare that a person that does it on regular basis is considered “so special” and “so different from the norm”. Why? That should be like breathing. It’s amazing to me how so many women are conditioned for hard times. I understand the past making a person stronger, but to what end? What are you getting stronger to do or accomplish? To appreciate a good thing or to be stronger for when it happens again?
All the women that say, “I’m better than this”, “I deserve better”, “I’m a queen”, “I can do bad by myself”, “I can do so much better”. Well do it, it’s as if you are thinking “You’re worth it, but you don’t except the worthy”.
Like I tell my younger sister, know your worth and claim it. And we wonder why chivalry is dying… if not dead?
SOUND OFF!!!